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- DWD ladies clothing sale tonight at Bnos Orchos Chaim 7:30pm -9:30pm
- Bingo Black Friday sale begins today 11/12- 11/25 pm all sorts of items from appliences,luggage, home goods, uggs,toys,books,etc..
- November 7 election numbers for Lakewood:
Eligible voters: 58,895
Vote-by-mail: 5,531
Early in-person: 4,573
Election day: 15,513
Total votes: 25,617 a 43.5% voter turnout
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- Lakewood Hatzolah adds 25 new members to service the central Jersey area
- This coming week, the First Lady of NJ Tammy Murphy is going to announce her candidacy for the U.S. Senate. And despite her weak qualifications, she’s widely expected to win the Democratic nomination thanks to her husband, the governor, who has about 100 levers he can pull to give her an unfair advantage.
“This is nepotism on stilts,” says Rutgers Professor Ross Baker, who’s made a career of studying the Senate. (Nj.com)
- The shopping center located at 1000 Airport Road in Lakewood has just been sold for $4.4 million, FAA News has learned.
-In a series of how Lakewood families swing their simchos financialy the voice of Lakewood magazine column shared simchas featured a not standard wedding where the baal Simcha spent $300,000 with a yearly salary of 600k the expenses included 30k for the vort,78k for a wedding package. 50k shabbos Sheva brachos,25k for gowns for the family. They did so by taking out a 175k loan from a private individual and taking three rest out of investment funds. No regrets but would be mindful next time of succumbing to social pressures in Lakewood and also thr pressures caused on others. Some are speculating of this was presented tounge in cheek or based on a real experience.
- The annual Kinus hashluchim of chabad gala event taking place today in Edison New Jersey
I am in the wedding industry, and I know personally of people that made 300k plus! weddings that the parents refinanced both grandparents home’s recently as they are in great debt.
ReplyDeleteWhat is sad is that the party planners that actively encourage this behavior(by putting social pressure on clients)take excessive kickbacks(marking up things 2-3x!).
If rabbonim simple make a takana 1)no party planners and 2)no flieshig kiddushim in their own shuls halls, it would save millions a year from unwanted and unseeded expenses. And more importantly, will actually be able to be a realistic “takana” as the shuls “gvir” can feel free to spend as much as they want, as long as they have no part planners and make the kiddish at a different hall.
How are we comparing no fleishigs or hired help to $300,000?
DeleteA kiddush with cheap liver or cold cuts, or cheap fleishig cholent is not what breaks the bank. Having a bit of warm, homely food is not what breals the bank. It's spending a lot, a lot more than that which breaks the bank.
A friend made a warm kiddush with kugel and fleishig cholent. cost was about $200.
You can cut out the cholent and still spend $4,000 cakes, cookies and salads. Then add the intoxicating stuff, and it goes to $10,000. The solution is being willing to go against the grain and simply celebrate with friends and family
These weekly papers are trash and there's a reason they are left outside on the curbs and driveways of Lakewood littering the streets turning into a pile of mushed wet paper.
ReplyDeleteAll they want is to get hits and attention keep them as compost or to wrap fish
I am not sure why rabbonim can't speak up against excessive spending and boycott Simchas whether in the shul or not. Their purim matono might shrink bur they will root this megushemdige and irresponsible way of living. I think whoever is making a simcha to impress, of it will be clear that he is looked down at for the fancy shmancy party he throws, this might stop the crazy trend!
ReplyDelete1. Because the Rav, and the Tzibur, owe a debt of hakaras hatov to the gvirim that make much of our society go around. The gvir does not owe anyone the support he gives to the Kollelim, Tzedaka orgs, and the Shul. The Rav cannot shirk that responsibility.
Delete2. Because there is no clear delineation line between the acceptable and the unacceptable. Rabbonim cannot make ad hoc decisions that will hurt people.
3. Because the way to teach this lesson (and most lessons) is not through force but through education. If a person is a megusham and wants a $300,000 wedding, he needs to be re-educated about priorities in life. That will not happen through a boycott.
4. Because you never know what is going on behind closed doors. You never know what kinds of pressure is happening. You don't know what the wife is going through or what her level of Yiddishkeit/mentchlichkeit is. If a gvir has a wife a dolt, who has no idea what life is all about, what is he to do? Divorce her? She is his wife, he has no way of changing her. Why should he be punished for doing the right thing and giving in to her rather than cause a fight?
מי צריך למי?
Deleteאפיקורס מאי. כגון האומר מאי אהני לי רבנן.
I’m proud to daven in a shul where the Ruv doesn’t allow elaborate Kiddushim in the Shul. What people do in their own homes is not under the Ruv’s jurisdiction but in the shul itself they hold firm and it’s been like that for 20 years now.
DeleteHow about ppl grow up & learn to spend within their means?
ReplyDeleteThe unvarnished truth is, when a person goes 'all out' and makes a massive kiddush, people sit around and make fun of the ba'al simcha. They stagger home and don't eat their wife's seuda. They fall into bed and wake up with a hangover.
ReplyDeleteWhen a yungerman makes a kiddush at home, and his friends come to his house to wish him mazel tov, the atmosphere is completely different. They walk in hungry and walk out hungry. But the conversation is so much more elevated, and the mood is so much more genial. People walk home happy, and the rest of Shabbos is normal.
If you want a happier life, make simple Simchos.
Duuuh, The Ruv's all live from licking up to their rich bey batim
ReplyDeleteI live out of Lakewood and have a hard time coming in to Lakewood for Simchas. On the one hand, you have Bnei Torah families living frugally, and then you have these extravagant weddings that make an out of towner feel very out of place. The contrast between the two worlds is mind boggling and unsettling. Lakewood is very high pressured with the standard of living, clothes, cars and homes. It’s time to make a new Lakewood.
ReplyDeleteAaron K guaranteed myself that a couple decades ago.
DeleteAll bluff.
Ever since they blocked Sloatsville.
As an out of towner, I no longer feel comfortable attending these fancy weddings knowing fully well that it’s social pressure and the parents really can’t afford it. Where have we come to?
ReplyDeleteAnon 1225pm, it's not all about breaking the bank, it's about wasting and abusing hashems world and about being mechubar leoylam hataavah with a double knot.
ReplyDeleteDo you consider a simple kiddush to celebrate the birth of a child, an upcoming bar mitzvah etc to be abusive of Hashem's world?
DeleteWe in Lakewood couldn't care less about Chabad
ReplyDeleteSpeak for yourself. Most of us care for all Jews, including Chabad.
DeleteClearly a trolling comment so that the same troll can come back and argue the other way
DeleteNot we. You.
Deletethat's okay. chabad doesn't care about us either.
ReplyDeleteSuch Ahavas Yisrael. Amazing.
ReplyDeleteThe biggest charity today. Is to make a simple wedding, giving millions of dollars to charity while hiking up all your neighbors, friends, families lifestyle, (even if it's allowed, ) defies the purpose. At the end of the day we live in mixed neighborhoods and we should think of the pressure others get it from our behavior
ReplyDeleteSo obvious
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