Video below The Q&A panel at the Agudah convention featured questions on timely issues addressed by Rav Aaron Lopiansky R"Y of Yeshiva of Greater Washington and Rav Yosef Elefant R"M in Mir Yerushalayim moderated by R' Sruly Besser see time line of topics below
"The amount of mistakes people make because they don't have somebody objective in their life to speak to is nothing less than catastrophic, dont do a shidduch with your daughter if the boy doesn't have a rav" Rabbi Elefant
- 05:00 what should be our mood now in these days what are we telling our children
-16:30 vayemaen movement focus on shmiras Einayim should this topic be on a public scale why was it not spoken about in the past
- 29:00 Gun Ownership when does the chiyuv Hastadlus begin
- 32:25 Therapy balancing Kibud Av V'em and the professional assessments parental alianation
45:40 parenting married children
- 53:30 how does one choose his daas Torah is it ok to pick and choose
- 1:14:00 how do you trust letters posted online from gedolim
- 1:27:20 with talk about mashiach coming since Oct 7 what is the proper direction in terms of hoping and awaiting mashiach
Have to give a disclaimer -- Rav Lopiansky is SIL of a Mir Yerushalayim RY
ReplyDeleteShadchan Lewenstein in 2016 interview with mishpacha from experience in came out with very different opinion:that the conveyor belt system is better than many rabbeim
ReplyDeleteIsn't ok-ing picking & choosing in DT essentially a hypocritical contradiction?
ReplyDeleteA yeshivish version of the headlines show why the need to discuss up to date topics
ReplyDeleteWhat an irresponsible statement, "Don't do a shidduch with a boy who doesn't have a Rav." Maybe his father doesn't have one, for one of various reasons, so his son should lose out!? In any event, most people have someone with insight whom they talk to in times of need or crisis. It doesn't need to be a "rav." It could be a wise parent or a close confidant, who is wiser and more experienced than he, and often has more insight and da'as Torah than an inexperienced youngerman who happens to have taken a test in Yoreh De'ah. Absurd
ReplyDeleteTrue, but isn't it riskier to do a shiduch with someone who doesn't have a rav than with someone who does have a rav?
DeleteAlso, the fact that someone doesn't have a steady rav or moreh derech shows something about the person. Not saying its good or bad, but it does show something.
Delete" isn't it riskier to do a shiduch with someone who doesn't have a" Depends on who it is
DeleteAnd what about people who claim to have a Rav, but really don't? Do people go confirm with the Rav first, if he is guiding him, or just maybe says good Shabbos to him, and asked him a question once, three years ago? And even if he spoke to the Rav more than that, is anyone confirming if he really followed what he was told, or is just putting on a show perhaps?
ReplyDeleteThe way they are talking about having a rav here you would think that Rabbonim are available and super easy to find. Most people I know who do not have a Rav say they would love to have one but are in a siltation that they can not find one. Take a large neighborhoods like the Yeshiva area or Westgate. What is the frum population of those places and how many practicing Rabbonim are there in those areas who would be willing to fulfil the function of being a Rav as described here?
ReplyDeleteEvery Shul in West Gate has a practicing Rav and every neighborhood has a Rav. If you can rely on the neighborhood Eruv then you should be able to rely on the Rav in your neighborhood.
DeleteFalse.
DeleteBecause they are sufficient at a single narrow specialty hardly grants them a capability role of advisor