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Monday, December 18, 2023
Hashkafa: How to feel Belonged
Hashkafa with Rav Gershon Ribner shlita.
Finding cohesiveness and belonging living in the oceanic metropolis of Lakewood
This is a terrible machla in our circles with elitist clicks inside developments or community shuls. There's a handful of machers and askanim who have a close nit click and don't accept any outsiders but even worse they do so in public only talking to each other or always sitting together and making outsiders feel very unwelcome. This used to be a problem more associated with teen age girls or even grown women but now the men are doing the same.
If all would be following the mandate of the *משנה there would be more cohesiveness.
ReplyDelete*הוי מקדים בשלום כל אדם
How about schmoozing with your neighbors by dinner at sear restaurant
ReplyDeleteSo true. So sad. Need better solutions
ReplyDeleteAnd if your working fuhgeddaboudit!!
ReplyDeleteHe is correct about a development but one needs to realize it comes with alot of othe problems!!
ReplyDeleteThis is a terrible machla in our circles with elitist clicks inside developments or community shuls. There's a handful of machers and askanim who have a close nit click and don't accept any outsiders but even worse they do so in public only talking to each other or always sitting together and making outsiders feel very unwelcome. This used to be a problem more associated with teen age girls or even grown women but now the men are doing the same.
ReplyDeleteAgreed. I moved into a neighborhood a few years ago and there's a solid handful of meyasdim that are extremely standoffish. It's close knit btw
DeleteTrue. The basements on Vermont were never socially included with the upstairs folk.
DeleteHis question was about a connection to a rav which isn't addressed.
ReplyDeletethe basement people often feel second class. Even in the developments....a shame
ReplyDeleteThird class. Which is usually how they are treated ( though they keep voting for the establishment anyway)
ReplyDeleteAttached houses is second class
In a lot of shuls basement tenants don't get seats or the right to vote in shul elections
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