Wednesday, April 13, 2016

Girls still waiting

 There are still girls not accepted to school and others placed in schools that they never applied to but the media wants you to believe otherwise.

18 comments:

  1. Where did the media get it from. Look atvthe photo and you will see

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  2. How can you expect every girl to get into the school they applied to. That would force some schools to have classes of over 50 kids. So if there are 10 schools and a girl applies to 1 2 and 3 and they are full ,then she has to get in there even if schools 6 7 8 and 9 have room. ? Makes no sense to,me.

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  3. Hey you are the same media. Not everything you post is 100 per cent verified by you to be true

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  4. I am starting to get a little skeptical. I know someone who has a child going to school. They applied to the 3 hardest schools to get into. I knew their child wouldn't get in when they applied.

    Now the parents are all upset that their child has no school. I don't know the situation in every case, but that was an eye opener for me. Sometimes it's the parents fault.

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  5. Please change the word sometimes to most times. I spoke to somebody who is close to one of the elementary school principals. That principal told him that the high school principals work very closely with the elementary schools in finding out which girls are appropriate for which high school. Many times the parents are in complete denial about where their daughter really belongs and waste months trying to get her into a school totally beyond her capacity, when schools that are right for her would have taken her had she applied. Once they come to reality then even the second school is full snd now they claim their daughter has no school. It happens every year.

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  6. and herein lies the same problem with shidduchim. Parents 'reaching'! why arent people honest with themselves and aim for what is attainable. NO... it's easier to complain they can't find a school.. can't get a shidduch, when what they really mean is I can't get what I want. Be real and you save yourself and your child(ren) and lot of agmas nefesh.

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  7. This and other blogs help petpetuate the problem. They always post sensational headlines about kuds with no school, yet they fail to really check the facts as to whetherthe parents had other options.

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  8. Same like last year. There were big headlines of 9 kids out of school. The truth was that 8 of them had schools they could have had but gave up ,and one guy who wasnt happy was a real loudmouth who made the tumul and put up the signs.

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  9. The blogs actually fixed the problem by publicizing what goes on. Yes there were 10 girls out of school close to chanukah. The askanim and roshei moisdos played chess and these girls were pawns. The Lakewood Roshei yeshiva were very upset about those girls they did not deflect the blame on blogs or parents or loudmouths. Look in the mirror. And btw this was before the rechnitz speech.

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  10. Maybe thats what you say. But i know somebody who spoke directly to the Rosh Yeshiva who admitted that last year in 95 per cent of the cases it was the parents fault. The RY just felt bad for the kids who were being hurt by their parents so thats why he tried to help. As you can see from the last few comments, people are starting to wake up and see how in denial some parents are about where their kids belong. Its only maybe 5 per cent or less of the parents but some of those are very loud and make a lot of noise.

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  11. It is true the rosh yeshivas were upset about the girls but they admitted that in most cases it was the parents fault. What happens is that during acceptance week, the parents dont apply to the schools that would accept them. Then after fighting for months in vain to get in to a school that is full ,they finally give up and say ok now i will go to the school that wanted me .Problem is that by that time ,the school that wanted them earlier is now also full and no longer wants them. So now they become people without a school. But those who know the truth know that it wa their own doing.

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  12. You are absolutely right. I myself know of 2 parents this year who only applied to 2 or 3 schools that are basically full with siblings. They figured they will fight their way in.of course they did not get in. Now they are being accepted to schools they didnt apply to. What do you expect. They dhould uave applied to these schools in the first place.

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  13. True. The parents are to blame. But we must think about why our community is so full of crazy parents. Parents are concerned that if they send to the school that is happy to have their daughter they will be labeled as a certain type- a lower class- the not so "yeshivish" the more "balibatish" type. It will effect shiduchim, camp, seminary and social class. In other words we live in a judgmental or what SYR called "elitist" community.

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  14. There is alot to be debated about our community. But at least you and others are finally waking up to the fact that for the most part it is the parents and not the mosdos that are causing this problem. Sure with 100 mosdos and crazy growth you are alwaysgoing to find cases where people were nit treated correctly by an individual in a mosad. But the crux of the problem stems from parents who are unrealistic and willing to sacrifice their kids to achieve what they percieve to be their proper social status.

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  15. The real problem is the few yechidim who know how to make a lot of noise. The tzibur has no,idea what the real truth about parents not being reslistic is. So last year there was one big noisemaker who posted signs and went on blogs to make it sound like there were many kids who never had a choice of any school. Then the other parents see that if you hold out and make noise you can get your way. So it never stops.

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  16. I agree with the poster who says its the parents fault. But its not our conmunity who is elitist. The same issues are in NY. We as a society have become judgemental and very picky in shiduchim ,schools etc. Dont blame Lakewood. Its all over in our society. In skall out of town communuties it might he less.

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  17. those who know don't say, those say don't know

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  18. True. But one thing everybody knows. That Rechnitz was the one who took care of the problem.

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